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This is not a bitter post about love. I love love. Whether you’re single or in a committed relationship, I’d like to wish everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day. Thanks for stopping by. Sign up for the newsletter too. Also, if you’re dating for the holiday, make sure you get a nice gift out the deal. Remember, Yeezy taught you well…

I’m not looking for the ring. However, I like doing the dance though…

Tell me this: just because you consider me a nice 6’1″, articulate, hardworking, trustworthy, considerate brown-skinned gentlemen with decent looks – I digress – does that mean I should be in a relationship?


For some reason people have a major problem when they find out I’m single. Yet, I’m the one sleeping alone at night, well some nights. I don’t know why it’s such a shocker for some. Well, I guess I can. I think I’m a good catch and all but being single is nothing uncommon or a death sentence for my life. I’m still going to live. Seems like we’ve turned being single into walking down the green mile. With Valentine’s Day today, everyone single has started amuck like every year. I know for sure, I have the greatest love and that is God. Just had to take it to church right quick-

What is a wee person to do when they’re feeling the blues of being single?

Nothing. Be. Single.

Being single isn’t nearly as bad as everyone makes it out to be. It’s actually more economically fulfilling. Well at least for me. Pending your age and if you’re going through a midlife crisis, being single at a young age doesn’t’ mean you’re going to end up alone in house full of cats yelling at the kids across the street. I don’t think I’m dying anytime soon because I’m single; unless you guys know something I don’t. Believe it or not, I’m hopeful that love will find me again. It’s just not my turn and I’m not rushing either. I rather fall in love for the right reasons than fall in love for convenience.

But still, I don’t need any reminders I’m single. Don’t play that song for me. That song gets old quick. I know my situation. Again, my situation. Even though every time I turn around there are constant reminders from my childhood friends getting married and having children – and having more children.

At this point in my life, I don’t think I can really handle another relationship. In actuality, want to handle another relationship. I’ve been in two relationships which spanned over four years of my adult life; actually longer than that if you count the uncertain in-betweens, but that’s neither here nor there. I’m proud of it and that’s all that really matters. I know I’m capable to love unconditionally and work through certain situations.

I understand the game. I accept myself being single. And I am content either being in a relationship or even being by myself.

We get so tangled up in the phenomena of how relationships can bring so much joy to our lives. Our cultural value towards marriage and “love” creates a prejudice against those who are single. We imply being single as someone who is incompetent, stubborn and not being able to love. I’m able to love. I appreciate coming together as a unit. I understand what it means to be committed. Just because I’m single, now, does it negate those characteristics in me? No.

I appreciate where I am in my life. Thanks for the concern but no thanks!

About Drew-Shane Daniels
Drew-Shane is a Philadelphia based writer maneuvering through life and graduate school. He’s the creative genius behind the new project www.heardhimsay.com. His work has been featured on Soul Train, Global Grind, KRAVE Magazine, Clutch Magazine and BET.com. You can also follow him on Twitter @drewshane.

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