I hate Valentine’s Day! Always have, always will. To me, it’s
just another day to separate the “haves”, from the “have-nots”. Like most
commercialized holidays, it thrives on a materialistic declaration of
appreciation towards others. I know someone is thinking it should be nothing to
show how much you love your significant other, and that’s true, but a calendar
shouldn’t dictate when or how I show that love and appreciation. This is not
the argument for how a man shows his love for his woman, how she demonstrates
her love for him or how two men or two women showcase their affection. This is
about the separation of those who believe they need someone showering them with kisses, hugs and beautiful words
today because it’s happening so much around them. This is about the “have-nots”.
Somewhere there’s a young girl hating herself right now
because she’s not walking around her high school with more balloons than she
can handle. In another place, there’s a woman who doesn’t love herself enough
to know that another year spending Valentine’s Day alone, should be another
year growing and learning to love. And somewhere, one of my brothers is
standing in the mirror, saying damn to himself, because he’s let another woman
walk out of his life. These are the products of Valentine’s Day, those who
defeat themselves time and time again, because they’re competing in a game that
has no true winners, only losers and those with the appearance of winning
something, but who knows what.
True love is not wrapped up in February 14, 2012, but will
be found on June
16th or October 15th, from someone else
or your damn self! There’s no race to happiness; far too many lie, cheat and
scheme to arrive at their definition of the word, while some of us take a
slower journey of self-discovery, finding all of our ugly truths, the pain of
breakups and ultimately the love within that allows others to love us fully. However,
too many of us aren’t willing to take that voyage and would rather a short-stay
of roses and dinner than the true magic of love.
Yeah, Valentine’s Day drives a wedge between those who love
and those who don’t love themselves enough to know that a true love is
something that can’t be defined by a calendar, Victoria’s Secret or inflated
prices on last week’s roses. True love is peace. True love is balance. True
love is mercy. True love is found in God…Allah, Jehovah or whatever you may
refer to Him as. When I remembered that love was unwavering, a love grew in me
that stands firm and projects in something as simple as a smile or the words
that fill this page.
Somewhere a husband kisses his wife the same way he
did the night before. In another place, a girlfriend will fall asleep with her
head on her lover’s lap like she’s done dozens of times before. Probably next door to you, parents will
watch their kids with happiness in their hearts and hope for the same for their
children in their eyes. And yes, one of my brothers will still be standing in
the mirror, saying damn to himself, because his woman left him for someone else…who
loved her the way she loved herself.
So if you think you’re lonely now, wait until you realize
that you really don’t love yourself…
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